9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage

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Today I am going to review 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage by Sheila Wray Gregoire is a wonderful book she gives real answers instead of the general pat answers that tend to repeat themselves and tend to sound so callous. She gives practical action steps on how to better your marriage with your spouse. There are 9 thoughts in there anybody can relate to. I won’t cover all 9 thoughts because I want you to read the book for yourself and see what you think.

Thought number 3 is great when she tells you action steps to resolve conflict. I loved her action step number 2 that when we share our frustrations with our husband, be clear on what you want to get out of the conversation: Should he listen, fix it, or help you fix it? Also in step 4 she suggested to take a personality inventory and a strengths inventory to figure out who you are. Let yourself off the hook for your weaknesses. Work more in your areas of strength.

Thought 7 Being One is More Important Than Being Right stuck out for me because I tend to always want to be right and have my own way. I loved how she said “The most effective way of seeing your husband as an ally is to stop and pray and ask God to help both of you see clearly. That is a great statement because as women we tend to let our emotions get the best of us and when we pray about it to God he helps us to keep our emotions in check. I also like how she said “Ask yourself, “What do I need in this situation right now?” When you find the answer, you’ve named your issue–your unmet need–and that means you can start problem solving.

I would recommend this book to all people who are considering getting married and to those who are already married because this will help to strengthen your marriage with each other.

Disclaimer: I received this book from Blogging for books in exchange for my honest review.

 

 

 

 

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When you feel age holds you back

Today for the life of David we looked at 1 Samuel 17:12-15 We are introduced to David’s family and what his birth order is in his family. David did not let being the youngest in his family stop him from going  Saul and back to Bethlehem to feed his father’s sheep. I don’t know about you, but I can admit it is hard to be the oldest among my siblings because I always feel the need to protect them. I’m sure this is what David’s brothers were thinking of how is this kid running from Saul back to home? I’m sure  they were protective of him, but David knew that God was with him and he did not let being the youngest in his family stop him from doing what God called him to do.

I know me being the oldest I tend to be more cautious and not want to step out of the box because I think I’m to old, but we see that David did not let that hold him back from what God was calling him to do. We know that he could have said “God, I’m to young to do what you want me to do.” He also could have been whining about tending to his father’s sheep, but instead he kept a positive attitude, and continued to tend his father’s sheep all while listening to what the Lord. Have any of you felt that your age held you back? How about you complain about the job you have? I know these can be tough questions to answer because there are times that I have let my age define me because I always don’t think I am as powerful as though who are my elders. I tend to think gee I can’t speak in front of my elders because what if they think What does she know because she is younger than us?

David we see trusted God with his whole heart. We need to remember that we should trust God with our whole heart and not let age define us. Also we need to be content with whatever job is in our life because the reality is we are doing it for the Lord doesn’t matter if you are working at Mcdonald’s just remember everything you do is for his name. I know that when we go through hard times we forget what God has called us to do. I need to remember in my life that even though I am going through a dry season that I need to be content and not let age define me. So today I will encourage you to not let your age define you also let us trust God with our whole heart.

WhenYou Feel You Don’t Measure UP

Well today started The Life of David Bible Study from Love God Greatly normally I would post my journaling, but this time I will write on it from my view. Okay here goes

Today we looked at 1 Samuel 16:1-12 these verses talk about how David was looked down on by his family and he was also looked down by Samuel, but God told Samuel not to look at the outward appearance, but to look at his heart. How many times have we as Christians looked at people’s outwards appearance? Are we quick to judge somebody on their looks? I know at times I have been guilty of judging somebody on their outward appearance instead of looking at what is in their heart. I believe as Christians we are all guilty of doing this at some point in our life.

Also we see how God used David to do great and powerful things with his life. I was reminded that even though I am going through a dry season of my life God has called me to do something great and powerful. God has called us all to do something great and powerful in our lives. What that looks like for you is up to the Lord. I am still trying to figure out what it is God has for me. I am trusting him with whatever it is in my life. I will not say that I don’t go through struggles because I do, but I will continue to trust the Lord to have my back. David trusted God with his life and he went on to become king of Israel. We also see that David was not Samuel’s first choice to be king, but he was God’s first choice because God saw David’s great potential.

Let us remember that we may not always be someone’s first choice, but we are always God’s first choice and he wants to do great and powerful lives. Also let us not be quick to look at the outward appearance of other people, but instead let’s look at their heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider how handsome or tall he is. I have not chosen him. I do not look at the things people look at. Man looks at how someone appears on the outside. But I look at what is in the heart.”